Wedding Party Speeches -Affordable, Personalized Coaching

Here are some tips on making your wedding speech. For a more customized, personal approach: Get in touch with us for a "no-obligation" consultation on how we can help. We'll help you prepare the text, as we personally coach you through to delivery - for a very reasonable, starving writer price, usually around $50.00. Just contact me at klleland@gmail.com -We'll get started right away.

1) Prepare! Reading this article is an excellent first step. Hiring a coach is an excellent second step.

2) Don't thank the bride or groom for choosing you as their Best Man or Maid of Honor, they didn't nominate you for Class President - it was an expression of affection. When someone says "I love you" the customary response is "I love you too" not "thank you very much." Honoring you on their most special day, singling you out as their most special person, shows that they love you. Now use your well prepared words to love 'em back.

3) Don't start waltzing down Memory Lane and forget to turn back. It's good to include a memorable anecdote, but one or two is enough. Remember, this day is about the bride and groom's future, not their history. Don't make it sound like a eulogy by describing all of the individual's great attributes and single-life shining moments.

4) Make sure the special memories that are recounted this day are appropriate for the general audience. "Remember that night when we stole your parents' Cadillac and went skinny dipping at the quarry with those two strippers" is only going to anger the parents, make the new bride's stomach turn, and if they were invited to the ceremony, probably embarrass the strippers.

5) Be careful that you don't make the common mistake of directing the entire speech to the person who bestowed this honor on you. You don't have to include both the bride and the groom in your funny anecdote from yesteryear, but when you shift gears into the present speak about both of them; their love for each other, their made-ness for each other, and their strength as a couple. If you want to slip in a quip now is a good time. "You may be in for a lot of sleepless nights Charlie. I went camping with Donna a couple times when we were in the Girl Scouts. I don't know about now, but back then she snored like a lumber jack." Or, "I know you will want to be by Charlie's side every minute Donna...Until he takes off his shoes. I got you a lifetime supply of Dr. Sholes Odor Eaters for your wedding gift Buddy!" Don't get carried away with this, saying something like: "I don't know how you are going to stand waking up every morning to a face that looks like it got beat with an ugly stick."

6) Make sure you wax serious when it comes to blessing their future. Express confidence in their character and true love for each other that assures you and everyone else present that their love will stand the test of time.

7) You prepared well so you were able to maintain your composure. Your trembling was barely detectable. Your careful and well thought out words didn't sound too rehearsed, even though they were. You honored the new Mr. and Mrs. and encouraged them as well. You didn't embarrass yourself or them, to your credit. You set the stage for all the festivities. Now go get drunk and make a complete fool of yourself!

To see some more good advice read this article written by Heather, one of our other coaches: How to Overcome the Jitters: Heather's Wedding Party Speech Advice